Comments on: When Did Your Parents Cut The Cord?

By: rent textbooks online

rent textbooks online — Mon, 01 Aug 2011 19:00:40 +0000

Well they have cut the cord then helped then cut the cord then helped so i am guessing I fall in the middle and it depends on the moment.

By: Joze Rod

Joze Rod — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 00:30:59 +0000

Sorry, not wasting but spending!!lol

By: Joze Rod

Joze Rod — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 00:30:30 +0000

My parents cut the cord at 18 years old. I am going to college right now in chicago. Although they somewhat helped out with food and small expenses, most of the money I am wasting is what I worked for during the summer. I have not asked for money since graduating from High School. It sucks because you parent get more distant, and it feels weird at first. Your family starts treating you differently, so I had definitly had to adapt to that. I also managed to pay for school with loans, and without any saving from my parents. It sucks, but I noticed it is very intimidating for other students who have their parents paying for everything. I needed to become confident and stricts with the people around me that it feels weird to even make friends with people same age as me( because they live a bubble). Although is sounds sounds like sucks, it has inspired me to make to the top. I very competative, and this gives me an edge that most college student dont have.

By: Dan Erwin

Dan Erwin — Tue, 18 May 2010 16:54:29 +0000

As both a parent and grandparent, I’ve come to the conclusion that financial support for college from parents is related to resources, attitude toward the role of education, “class” and one’s “theory” on parenting.

Cultures differ in their attitudes toward education. Many Asian parents will do without food to make certain that their kids go to college and get a graduate degree. Recently I learned from the Indian owner of my local cleaners that his son was in med school, and I commented that that was an expensive outlay. His response was telling: “I brought my children into this world. It’s my responsibility to pay for the best possible education for them.” Same is definitely true for Chinese.

Those with more financial resources are often influenced by colleagues with similar resources who believe that education is one of the responsibilities of being a parent. Still others with resources, rarely have the thought of financial support cross their minds. They often have not been exposed to upper-middle class values.

These are, as I suggested above, also “class issues.” Those in sociology know from research that middle class is strongly oriented to security (financial and otherwise), so the willingness to support education is less of an agenda. Upper middle class tends to be far more oriented to achievement, so there is a much greater willingness to do what is necessary for kids to achieve educationally. And those without resources often create a “theory of financial responsibility” in their mind that says it’s the kid’s responsibility. “Not part of being a parent.”

Our experience has been that education is one of the major keys to lifelong success, and not merely financial success. Thus, we would have done anything for our kids, even if we lacked the resources. (Classic, immigrant attitude, although our families have been here since the 1740s.)

Obviously, I’m generalizing from research and exceptions will not be difficult to find. But there’s a lot of relevant research on the issue.

By: Dustin Huibregtse

Dustin Huibregtse — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 17:20:33 +0000

In my eyes, what it comes down to is whether or not you value their money by valuing your education. I know that if I for one second didn’t get good grades and started slipping, I would be on a short leash, and if I hit rock bottom and stopped caring I would lose any cash that was going to college from my Dad.

Someone once told me its about trying to help out where you can if your parents are helping you, and making sure they know you value your education as much as your do your family. They’ll understand every penny is well spent.

Heck, just remember to thank them as much as you can.